Monday, November 21, 2005
Watching The Gauges
Many people in our day have entered into a way of life that is toxic to the soul, and it has the potential to destroy your spirit and sap the life out of you. If your whole life is just a rushed, unblinking movement from task to task, if you find yourself constantly running on fumes, trying to cram more into your days, if there's nothing more to your life than just increasing its speed, you're going to pay a real serious price. Your heart is going to get real small and real cold, and your spirit is going to get real shallow, and you will become self-absorbed.
Why is it so hard for people to stay on track in life through the ups and downs? Not able to stay at the top of their game when life goes astray. What is it about some people that allows them to keep going through hard times while others fall apart? Is it just certain personality types or temperaments? Since there are many different personality types and combinations of temperaments, strengths, weaknesses combined with the multifaceted "stressors" that come our way, it is impossible to draw any conclusions about how certain people will most likely navigate or emotionally survive the hard times of life.
Given my unique strengths, weaknesses, abilities, habits, I will go through situations and circumstances different than you and you than me. We will never change that fact. It is not the goal of my writing to come up with a set formula that works for every person the same way. I want to introduce some concepts that could very well change your life and the lives of those around you for generations to come.
Even though we are all different, there are some similarities about the way we all face circumstances and navigate our way through life and make progress in relationships or get stuck because of poor life navigational skills or lack of preparation. What I am interested in is how to go through the seasons of life, the good, the difficulties, and the unfairness and be able to come through and out the other side without losing momentum in areas of life such as relationships, finances, spirituality, emotionally. To come through all that life throws your way and keep those things intact. To stay balanced with the ability to make great decisions in the middle of life’s frustrations.
I believe that each of us is designed by a designer or creator in ways that are very unique from each other. Relating patterns are similar, but the way that I move through life, the way that I make decisions, the way I see things and view things and respond to things is drastically different than the way you would go through similar things. The things that I love to do will be different than the things you love to do. The things I find exciting, you may find boring. The things you find to be thrilling may put me to sleep. We are all different.
That statement does not reveal anything new to you, but I want to dive deeper into the uniqueness of design for each of us, and the ramifications on your life and mine if we do not understand how we have each been designed to refuel when we reach a depleted state. If we all are different in our design, then not only do we respond uniquely as we face all that life throws our way, but we also are depleted at a different rate and refueled In a different manner. Not understanding how you reach depletion and what refuels you once you do, can be devastating to your life, your decisions, and your success. Building those refueling moments and activities into your life will take some time and some self awareness. The result will pay enormous dividends for you and those around you.
The first part of the journey naturally starts with the question; Do you know what depletes you emotionally? Be specific, which people, what activities and circumstances. I will teach you to learn about the "depletors" in your life and the "refuelers." The goal is to be able to gauge where you are at any given time and then know what to do in order to overcome depletion and learn how to refuel. So, pull up a chair and let's take a journey together.
Why is it so hard for people to stay on track in life through the ups and downs? Not able to stay at the top of their game when life goes astray. What is it about some people that allows them to keep going through hard times while others fall apart? Is it just certain personality types or temperaments? Since there are many different personality types and combinations of temperaments, strengths, weaknesses combined with the multifaceted "stressors" that come our way, it is impossible to draw any conclusions about how certain people will most likely navigate or emotionally survive the hard times of life.
Given my unique strengths, weaknesses, abilities, habits, I will go through situations and circumstances different than you and you than me. We will never change that fact. It is not the goal of my writing to come up with a set formula that works for every person the same way. I want to introduce some concepts that could very well change your life and the lives of those around you for generations to come.
Even though we are all different, there are some similarities about the way we all face circumstances and navigate our way through life and make progress in relationships or get stuck because of poor life navigational skills or lack of preparation. What I am interested in is how to go through the seasons of life, the good, the difficulties, and the unfairness and be able to come through and out the other side without losing momentum in areas of life such as relationships, finances, spirituality, emotionally. To come through all that life throws your way and keep those things intact. To stay balanced with the ability to make great decisions in the middle of life’s frustrations.
I believe that each of us is designed by a designer or creator in ways that are very unique from each other. Relating patterns are similar, but the way that I move through life, the way that I make decisions, the way I see things and view things and respond to things is drastically different than the way you would go through similar things. The things that I love to do will be different than the things you love to do. The things I find exciting, you may find boring. The things you find to be thrilling may put me to sleep. We are all different.
That statement does not reveal anything new to you, but I want to dive deeper into the uniqueness of design for each of us, and the ramifications on your life and mine if we do not understand how we have each been designed to refuel when we reach a depleted state. If we all are different in our design, then not only do we respond uniquely as we face all that life throws our way, but we also are depleted at a different rate and refueled In a different manner. Not understanding how you reach depletion and what refuels you once you do, can be devastating to your life, your decisions, and your success. Building those refueling moments and activities into your life will take some time and some self awareness. The result will pay enormous dividends for you and those around you.
The first part of the journey naturally starts with the question; Do you know what depletes you emotionally? Be specific, which people, what activities and circumstances. I will teach you to learn about the "depletors" in your life and the "refuelers." The goal is to be able to gauge where you are at any given time and then know what to do in order to overcome depletion and learn how to refuel. So, pull up a chair and let's take a journey together.
// posted by Keith @ 6:35 PM 
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I know what it's like to run on or near empty. It seemed like all the fueling stations were closed for a LONG time, but luckily there are a few open now.
This topic is a very good one.
Fill 'er up!
This topic is a very good one.
Fill 'er up!
I think that time alone recharges my batteries while contact with people drains me. I suspect that this is because I care about people too much, if that's possible.
Glad to see that you are taking up a new topic, although I did like your previous screen format better.
Glad to see that you are taking up a new topic, although I did like your previous screen format better.
Like John Cowart, time alone recharges me. I am in sales and also a counselor / ordained minister so I am thrust among people and their problems more than I'd ever like. I am actually somewhat of a loner, and prefer the computer (quiet and slower paced) to the phone although I can hold my own and have been accused of being Type A.
I once took in houseguests out of charity (they had no where to go) and they overstayed their welcome by a couple months. I would go in my own room at night and cry. I would vent to friends and family. Until I finally realized (duh) that *I* was allowing it all. Funny how you can counsel others but you get too close to the situation to be able to take your own counsel at times.
When I finally realized that I was enabling the situation, and that I wasn't being 'The Good Guy' by keeping my mouth shut, I left them a very nice note on the stove detailing some nearby apartments and the rates that they were at.
They got the hint and were out within weeks. I could breathe again.
I once took in houseguests out of charity (they had no where to go) and they overstayed their welcome by a couple months. I would go in my own room at night and cry. I would vent to friends and family. Until I finally realized (duh) that *I* was allowing it all. Funny how you can counsel others but you get too close to the situation to be able to take your own counsel at times.
When I finally realized that I was enabling the situation, and that I wasn't being 'The Good Guy' by keeping my mouth shut, I left them a very nice note on the stove detailing some nearby apartments and the rates that they were at.
They got the hint and were out within weeks. I could breathe again.
John & Saur: Thanks for coming by the new blog. I also gain strength from being alone. In the coming days I hope to walk people through some specifics about their uniqueness that also brings refueling.
Stupidity drains me. Or to put it more kindly, being around people or situations which are lacking common sense, a forward direction, or any of the other earmarks of there being anything beneficial (to me) in my presence. The sad part is, I work in technical support, where 'Brother' Dave Gardner's admonition of "put down that wheelbarrow, Jethro; you don't know nothin' 'bout technology" comes into play at times. I can diffrientiate between ignorance (not knowing something as yet) and stupidity (willingful ignorance), and I love people who are willing to try. Being around mental voids as such are negative karma on my lifeforce.
Being alone only recharges me part of the way. As much as I love silence, stars, wind, and being in places Man has not befouled yet, it is other people who have something positive to offer that makes me feel most happy and refreshed. (Put them together like in a camping experience with likeminded people and, hey, I'll never want to leave.) I can't be an island unto myself, human contact is too valuable to me... so long as the people I'm in contact with don't make me feel like my brain is being sucked out of my head. :)
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Being alone only recharges me part of the way. As much as I love silence, stars, wind, and being in places Man has not befouled yet, it is other people who have something positive to offer that makes me feel most happy and refreshed. (Put them together like in a camping experience with likeminded people and, hey, I'll never want to leave.) I can't be an island unto myself, human contact is too valuable to me... so long as the people I'm in contact with don't make me feel like my brain is being sucked out of my head. :)
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